BDSM, fetish, role play, and other erotic specialties are indeed extremely diverse.
To begin with, there are people who are submissives but not masochists, and vice-versa.
Some would fulfill their soul by servicing; but others could transcend themselves through objectification, pain or by surrender.
Others' strength would grow by conquering any obstacle put by his Mistress, while some would find the highest freedom through following commands to break limits and taboos.
If you have no actual experience but are curious and would like to try, do not hesitate to contact Me: fill the supplication form and enclose a couple of paragraphs on your fears, doubts and personal history.